I took last week totally off from the studio because I was worn out from dealing with this persistent vertigo. The ENT told me that I probably would not find the answer in medicine, and I agree after seeing that he did not do any investigation of what my symptoms might mean. One reason is because the poor doctors are not allowed to spend much time at all with any one patient and some of us have very weird things that would need lots of investigation for which there is not time. So, I have decided to go the TCM who was helping me a few years ago with herbs and other things. The big problem is money, and I was not able to continue with him even though I was working then. Hubby has agreed to help with payments and that will take some stress off my shoulders as well. I am tired of not walking well or safely and I want some sort of resolution! It is a burnout of sorts; in that I am tired of trying to live a sort of normal life around these symptoms! I will keep you posted, Sandra! <3
Jean, I think that is burnout, and I feel for you. Allopathic medicine can be helpful if you have a routine problem, but it has it is limited when it comes to many disorders. It can feel like hitting a wall again and again. I love the way my acupuncturist can explain things that elude my medical doctors. I hope you'll find relief with TCM. The right herbs can be powerful. Unfortunately, insurance doesn't cover even part of the cost, blocking access to this resource for many people who could benefit. Hoping for the very best for you!
Thanks, Sandra. I have seen this TCM doctor, and he is wonderful----i will probably be boiling herbs for several hours every other night :) but I think it will be worth it. Bill is going to help with the cost of the treatments! <3
I suppose there can be secondary casualties of burnout ...like sister`s that get hammered for just
listening & trying to help ...sorry Sandra ..I`ve lost all sympathy for her now...I can`t relate..sadder yet it`s hurting me more than her ..cause we haven`t talked..we`re piss poor at talking..screaming OK ... talking... forget it : (((
Hey Sandra..I glad you found a calm in the storm....my sister is in such a storm...and I got a blast of it last night...she has boundaries issues at wrk & keeps taking on more & more ... on top of starving herself so she can get into all her skinny skirts she wore when she was like 20... she is spinning out of control...and won`t listen to anyone . I wanted to lash out back to her...but I thought I don`t need to take this personally...she`s just frustrated...glad I didn`t..otherwise it would have been me not sleeping...but other than just listen,...I don`t know what else to do.. it`s like watching a car accident in slow motion
Brenda, what a challenging situation! It takes a lot of mindfulness, compassion, and kindness not to lash back when someone is in such an intense place. I understand your feeling of helplessness. Sometimes, there is nothing we can do. The person has to learn their own lesson, but that can be hard to watch. My heart is with you.
I finally found my words....and I let her have `em...I did say I was sorry...if I seemed like I was judging her..but I also told her I was hurt and I need some cooling time cause
I fricken hate her right now...lol...maybe that seems a bit much..but it felt right for me right now..( not to mention true ) I `m able to let it go & sure I`ll sleep tonight.
Thankyou Sandra..appreciate your words...they are like a balm on fresh wounds today following an email I received from her this mornin... after getting past the storm last night...she dug the knife in a little deeper ...made it personal....and this time I`m having a hard time letting go..and I want to lash out .. I have yet to reply..cause I am still so hurt & angry : (((
I don’t have all of the answers, but I do know that our bodies need recovery each day in order to replenish our spoons. I teach people to do this via ‘Active stress management’ which I briefly wrote about last year in this post (and write about often over on my Substack): https://humansleading.substack.com/p/getting-to-ok
Jillian, Please don't use my comments section to promote yourself. I learned that tenet of blogging etiquette early in my online writing career. But maybe no one has explained that to you. I appreciate genuine comments, but please leave out the links and self-promotion.
I apologize. I meant to share in the spirit of answering your question at the end of your post, not as shameless self-promotion. Thank you for the feedback I’ll be more mindful in the future.
Yeah I'm feeling ya. Health burnout here too. Too much stress due to two extra chronic diagnosis recently added on. Mindfulness/meditation is my great balancer/equalizer when pulled up into the mind. So want to do more but the body says NO. I have learnt abeit slowly to listen to it. And to know that in listening to it is compassionate self care. Go gently Sandra.
Gracie, I'm sorry to hear you've experienced burnout, too, in addition to chronic illness diagnoses. Thanks for sharing how mindfulness helps you and how you're learning to listen to your body. Thanks for the encouragement! Going gently sounds beautiful to me!
Thank you for this article. I have experienced burnout more than once in my 15-year current job at sales. In order to deal with the emotional and physical stress of being burned out, I had to take two different leaves from work for 1.5 years each. During those times I knew I had to not only physically, but mentally rest. What really helped me was saying "No" more often (especially to myself trying to cram every moment of the day); and instead, gave myself permission to take naps when I was tired, and just rest. Another saving grace was me discovering my love for hiking, and connecting with nature many times throughout the week. Returning to being very mindful of what I was doing, and taking extra gentle care of myself helped volumes.
Melanie, Thank you for your wise advice based on your experience. Those were long leaves. I'm impressed by how you learned to care for yourself by napping and resting. Nature is so revitalizing, too. Thanks for sharing your tips with us. I hope you will be well always.
I took last week totally off from the studio because I was worn out from dealing with this persistent vertigo. The ENT told me that I probably would not find the answer in medicine, and I agree after seeing that he did not do any investigation of what my symptoms might mean. One reason is because the poor doctors are not allowed to spend much time at all with any one patient and some of us have very weird things that would need lots of investigation for which there is not time. So, I have decided to go the TCM who was helping me a few years ago with herbs and other things. The big problem is money, and I was not able to continue with him even though I was working then. Hubby has agreed to help with payments and that will take some stress off my shoulders as well. I am tired of not walking well or safely and I want some sort of resolution! It is a burnout of sorts; in that I am tired of trying to live a sort of normal life around these symptoms! I will keep you posted, Sandra! <3
Jean, I think that is burnout, and I feel for you. Allopathic medicine can be helpful if you have a routine problem, but it has it is limited when it comes to many disorders. It can feel like hitting a wall again and again. I love the way my acupuncturist can explain things that elude my medical doctors. I hope you'll find relief with TCM. The right herbs can be powerful. Unfortunately, insurance doesn't cover even part of the cost, blocking access to this resource for many people who could benefit. Hoping for the very best for you!
Thanks, Sandra. I have seen this TCM doctor, and he is wonderful----i will probably be boiling herbs for several hours every other night :) but I think it will be worth it. Bill is going to help with the cost of the treatments! <3
Herbs can be powerful! Good luck, Jean!
I suppose there can be secondary casualties of burnout ...like sister`s that get hammered for just
listening & trying to help ...sorry Sandra ..I`ve lost all sympathy for her now...I can`t relate..sadder yet it`s hurting me more than her ..cause we haven`t talked..we`re piss poor at talking..screaming OK ... talking... forget it : (((
Hey Sandra..I glad you found a calm in the storm....my sister is in such a storm...and I got a blast of it last night...she has boundaries issues at wrk & keeps taking on more & more ... on top of starving herself so she can get into all her skinny skirts she wore when she was like 20... she is spinning out of control...and won`t listen to anyone . I wanted to lash out back to her...but I thought I don`t need to take this personally...she`s just frustrated...glad I didn`t..otherwise it would have been me not sleeping...but other than just listen,...I don`t know what else to do.. it`s like watching a car accident in slow motion
Brenda, what a challenging situation! It takes a lot of mindfulness, compassion, and kindness not to lash back when someone is in such an intense place. I understand your feeling of helplessness. Sometimes, there is nothing we can do. The person has to learn their own lesson, but that can be hard to watch. My heart is with you.
I finally found my words....and I let her have `em...I did say I was sorry...if I seemed like I was judging her..but I also told her I was hurt and I need some cooling time cause
I fricken hate her right now...lol...maybe that seems a bit much..but it felt right for me right now..( not to mention true ) I `m able to let it go & sure I`ll sleep tonight.
Tx again for listening Sandra...
Brenda, I'm glad you can let it go now after speaking your truth, and you'll be able to sleep tonight. Sometimes, that's what it takes.
now I just have to live with the after shock`s ...my own.... : (((
bought a new book today.. How to Forgive when you Can`t...
Brenda, I hope it's not too difficult and you find the book helpful.
Tx Sandra......I totally believe in forgiveness..
" is giving up my need to hurt you... for hurting me "
Thankyou Sandra..appreciate your words...they are like a balm on fresh wounds today following an email I received from her this mornin... after getting past the storm last night...she dug the knife in a little deeper ...made it personal....and this time I`m having a hard time letting go..and I want to lash out .. I have yet to reply..cause I am still so hurt & angry : (((
Brenda, This is so difficult! It sounds like you found your way by speaking your truth. Hoping it works out the best way possible.
really appreciate you hanging round... and your support...
probably not the words you would have used..
but you didn`t judge me.... : ))
Brenda, We are all a work in progress! Me too!
What an important topic. Thank you for sharing!
I don’t have all of the answers, but I do know that our bodies need recovery each day in order to replenish our spoons. I teach people to do this via ‘Active stress management’ which I briefly wrote about last year in this post (and write about often over on my Substack): https://humansleading.substack.com/p/getting-to-ok
Jillian, Please don't use my comments section to promote yourself. I learned that tenet of blogging etiquette early in my online writing career. But maybe no one has explained that to you. I appreciate genuine comments, but please leave out the links and self-promotion.
I apologize. I meant to share in the spirit of answering your question at the end of your post, not as shameless self-promotion. Thank you for the feedback I’ll be more mindful in the future.
Thanks, Jillian!
Yeah I'm feeling ya. Health burnout here too. Too much stress due to two extra chronic diagnosis recently added on. Mindfulness/meditation is my great balancer/equalizer when pulled up into the mind. So want to do more but the body says NO. I have learnt abeit slowly to listen to it. And to know that in listening to it is compassionate self care. Go gently Sandra.
Gracie, I'm sorry to hear you've experienced burnout, too, in addition to chronic illness diagnoses. Thanks for sharing how mindfulness helps you and how you're learning to listen to your body. Thanks for the encouragement! Going gently sounds beautiful to me!
Thank you for this article. I have experienced burnout more than once in my 15-year current job at sales. In order to deal with the emotional and physical stress of being burned out, I had to take two different leaves from work for 1.5 years each. During those times I knew I had to not only physically, but mentally rest. What really helped me was saying "No" more often (especially to myself trying to cram every moment of the day); and instead, gave myself permission to take naps when I was tired, and just rest. Another saving grace was me discovering my love for hiking, and connecting with nature many times throughout the week. Returning to being very mindful of what I was doing, and taking extra gentle care of myself helped volumes.
Melanie, Thank you for your wise advice based on your experience. Those were long leaves. I'm impressed by how you learned to care for yourself by napping and resting. Nature is so revitalizing, too. Thanks for sharing your tips with us. I hope you will be well always.