Such an important topic! I’m in a healthy relationship but shortly after marriage I found myself abandoning some of my wants and needs to fit into the mold of how I thought a ‘good wife,” should act. It was a difficult journey to unravel that, and in some ways I think it’s a lifelong one! I can also see how powerful it could be to ask some of these questions in terms of my relationship with different aspects of my life, especially work since I tend to overwork and lose balance in that area. Thanks for this beautiful guide to direct my inner work!
Suzanne, I'm glad you're in a healthy relationship now! Knowing that we can change unhealthy relationship patterns and learn how to create a healthy partnership is inspiring. Thanks for sharing your personal story of trying to fit into the mold of a 'good wife.' Giving ourselves away seems to be a typical pattern for women especially. I appreciate how you found it a difficult journey to unravel. Working with this tendency is also a lifelong journey for me, although I have much more clarity now. I love how you plan to apply these questions to different aspects of your life. You're so right; these tendencies can crossover easily into other areas. I'm so inspired by how beautifully you embrace continual personal growth.
I lost myself in my marriage. I put the needs of my husband above mine since it was intolerable when his were not met. I am thankful beyond measure that those days are long behind me. Now the only needs and wants for me to take into consideration are my own. ;-)
Thank you for the thoughtful and helpful post, Sandra - and Happy Birthmonth!
Cathy, Thanks for sharing so honestly. I'm sorry you went through that, and I'm glad those days are behind you. You seem like your own woman now, which inspires us all to know we can change, too. Thanks for the birth-month wishes!
This is a valuable post and exercise, Sandra. When I work with a client that is one of the first things we discuss - needs, wants and values. It's no longer surprising to me how often it's difficult for my clients to articulate their needs. This is such an important message, especially in the time we're living in.
Thank you, Paulette; it's good to hear how essential this exercise is in your work with clients. Knowing our needs, wants, and values is foundational to building a happier, healthier, and more meaningful life. Thanks for the birthday wishes!
This is such great advice. Some very practical exercises to reconnect with yourself. These are things I have been working on recently.
Laura, I'm so glad to hear this from you! Thank you.
Such an important topic! I’m in a healthy relationship but shortly after marriage I found myself abandoning some of my wants and needs to fit into the mold of how I thought a ‘good wife,” should act. It was a difficult journey to unravel that, and in some ways I think it’s a lifelong one! I can also see how powerful it could be to ask some of these questions in terms of my relationship with different aspects of my life, especially work since I tend to overwork and lose balance in that area. Thanks for this beautiful guide to direct my inner work!
Suzanne, I'm glad you're in a healthy relationship now! Knowing that we can change unhealthy relationship patterns and learn how to create a healthy partnership is inspiring. Thanks for sharing your personal story of trying to fit into the mold of a 'good wife.' Giving ourselves away seems to be a typical pattern for women especially. I appreciate how you found it a difficult journey to unravel. Working with this tendency is also a lifelong journey for me, although I have much more clarity now. I love how you plan to apply these questions to different aspects of your life. You're so right; these tendencies can crossover easily into other areas. I'm so inspired by how beautifully you embrace continual personal growth.
I lost myself in my marriage. I put the needs of my husband above mine since it was intolerable when his were not met. I am thankful beyond measure that those days are long behind me. Now the only needs and wants for me to take into consideration are my own. ;-)
Thank you for the thoughtful and helpful post, Sandra - and Happy Birthmonth!
Cathy, Thanks for sharing so honestly. I'm sorry you went through that, and I'm glad those days are behind you. You seem like your own woman now, which inspires us all to know we can change, too. Thanks for the birth-month wishes!
This is a valuable post and exercise, Sandra. When I work with a client that is one of the first things we discuss - needs, wants and values. It's no longer surprising to me how often it's difficult for my clients to articulate their needs. This is such an important message, especially in the time we're living in.
And, happy birthday to you!
Thank you, Paulette; it's good to hear how essential this exercise is in your work with clients. Knowing our needs, wants, and values is foundational to building a happier, healthier, and more meaningful life. Thanks for the birthday wishes!