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Daffodil Angel's avatar

❤️👍

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Thank you, Daffodil!

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Cathy Joseph's avatar

I love your thought that being there for ourselves can become the antidote to feelings of abandonment. It's a powerful practice. 💕

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Cathy, thank you! It has been a powerful practice for me.

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Prajna O'Hara's avatar

Huge, not to abandon u, the 1 you’ve been seeking. Tender post,

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Thank you so much, Prajna!

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Victoria Fann's avatar

Such a delicate, tender topic. Thank you for such a heartfelt and personal perspective.

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Victoria, Thank you for appreciating it!

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Ryan Delaney's avatar

A beautiful, affirming message, Sandra. Thank you.

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Ryan, Thanks for those kind words! They mean the world to me!

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Alexander Lovell, PhD's avatar

I was particularly moved by the line, "Every human being is treacherous to every other human being because they must be true to their own soul." That's a powerful and somewhat unsettling thought. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that people should always be there for us, but the truth is, everyone is on their own journey, with their own priorities and needs. It's not malicious, just human. Recognizing this has helped me soften my expectations and focus more on building a solid relationship with myself. If I can be true to my own soul, then I can better understand and accept when others need to do the same.

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Alexander, I love how you've responded to that powerful line. It seems like such a powerful truth to me, yet, as you point out, we tend to expect otherwise. Thanks for sharing your incredible insights about how building a solid relationship with yourself is so key to healthy relationships with others.

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Brenda Soer's avatar

" I put my hands over my heart and whisper sweetly to myself: “I will never abandon you.” As I do, the fear of abandonment melts away. " Sandra Pawula

Lov this : )))

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

So glad, Brenda!

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Flora M Brown's avatar

Sandra, how wonderful to discover you here after many years have passed since we last spoke/exchanged ideas. Thank you for sharing your experience with the fear of abandonment and your solution. It can be applied to comfort ourselves when we faced with this or other fears.

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Sandra Pawula's avatar

Flora, how wonderful to see you! We writers keep showing up in new places. We're a persistent lot. I will check out your Substack. I'm glad you liked my piece. Be well!

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Flora M Brown's avatar

Thanks, Sandra. I look forward to staying in touch.

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